Stories like this are the reason that I’m still not sure exactly where I fall on the Side A/Side B split. It presents some of the challenges that go along with celibate partnerships and brings up a lot of good questions for people who are trying to figure out how to live their lives practically, not just with a one-size-fits-all theology that a lot of churches try to force on people. We need to remember that this isn’t something that you can simply slap a Bible verse on and then send people on their way. Every aspect of your life is affected, and I think that’s what so many conservative Christians, churches, and pastors don’t understand. We aren’t even sure how we’re supposed to live, because we keep hearing so many things from so many different directions. So read this, and also understand that this is why I’ve learned to take everything that I hear from churches and pastors on LGBT issues with a grain of salt, because they haven’t helped me or supported me in figuring out how I’m actually supposed to live and in the end all that matters is where I stand with God.
For anyone who has spent any amount of time reading this blog, you have probably picked up on the fact that the traditional perspective on gay marriage (what some call “Side B”) is a bit of a sore spot for me. The topic is very, very, very personal for me, and the vast majority of this blog, so far, has been dedicated to processing and sorting through how I feel about it. I’ve been thinking that it might be time to share more about why the topic is so very personal. I think enough time has elapsed between now and the events in question that I am in a place where I can write about them in a public way.
At the moment when I was the most certain of my traditional beliefs I fell, quite by accident, very deeply in love with another man, whom I will call…
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